Mental Checklist for Adopting as an Older Parent

Posted on: 7 July 2015

If you are thinking about adopting a child as an older parent, there are a few things to think about before beginning the process. The reasoning behind why you want to adopt is important. Here are four things that you should reflect on before beginning the adoption process.

1. What are Your Goals?

If you are using a child to fill a void or to feel younger, these are not valid reasons to adopt and will come out in your adoption interview process. If you are hoping to expand your family and feel that you have love to give and can provide a stable home, you will make a great candidate for adoption. Don't use adoption to mask other shortcomings in your life.

2. Are You Healthy?

Be sure to have your health evaluated fully before you decide to adopt as an older parent. If you are getting older, it is important that you have a plan in place in case you do have health issues come up in the future. Be sure you have a clean bill of health before pursuing adoption so that you can have the strength and years to devote to caring for a child.

3. Do You Have Energy and Patience?

Raising kids is different when you are older than when you were in your twenties. If you had children earlier in life or were an involved aunt or uncle, you might remember kids as a delight. You might be looking at child rearing through rose-tinted glasses. Be sure to watch your friends' kids or try fostering first to make sure you are still up for this at your current age.

4. Are You Hoping to Adopt a Baby?

If you have love to give, you don't necessarily have to adopt an infant. There are plenty of older children that are in need of good homes as well. You may be placed faster if you have an open mind and your options aren't limited to adopting a baby. If you do adopt an older child, hopefully they can have you in their life for many more milestones to come.

As an older individual, you are most likely better off and more established than a young parent and can provide a safe, comfortable environment for a child. Just make sure that you are doing this for the right reasons and that you are ready to take on the responsibilities of being a parent at this stage in your life. Be upfront and honest with adoption agencies so that they can be sure to place you with a child suited for your family. Consider speaking with a representative from A Child's Dream for more information.